Scrolling through social media is really full-time work on top of my part-time work that’s on top of my full-time work. It’s exhausting. Weeding through the bullshit to get to the genuine nuggets of wisdom takes the patience of Job. I blame Job. I mean Jobs. Steve Jobs. Steve studied Zen Buddhism so, along with being generally brilliant, he had a way of crafting words to motivate and inspire others. Thus, the Quote Maker was born and has since become the bane of my existence.
Let me be clear that the Quote Maker is a wonderful tool. I use it myself. But when it’s used in the service of evil, such as reminding me that I should start a juice cleanse (No. No I should not.), or that I should “Type Yes” if I agree (I do not agree. Ever.), then I cannot get on board. And, most importantly, when there’s a “pissy admonition” (a term coined by my very smart and funny sister) that starts with the word Don’t, I can become enraged (see previous post Who Needs F%&@#&g Anger Management). Some examples:
“Don’t let fear…”
“Don’t allow others…”
“Don’t ask yourself…”
Really the only sentence I like that begins with Don’t is…
Don’t fucking tell me what to do!
Perhaps I’ve been feeling a little extra salty lately. I’ll own that. But using a cool new font on a beautiful background photo of nature’s bliss to tell me NOT to do something seems counterintuitive. And maybe even a little mean. It’s kind of a bait and switch situation. At first glance, the reader is drawn in by the wonder that is old school Helvetica or Times New Roman. Maybe even a funky new Sans or Serif. And then BAM! The reader is hit with “Don’t cry over the past. It’s gone.” Really? Screw you Sans AND Serif!
I want – I need – positivity in my life. From the things I read and view on my screen, to the people I surround myself with, I choose them mindfully. With an eye and heart toward love and light and laughter. I want to grow and progress on life’s path with awareness and intention – not because I was shamed into it by Don’t.
When I choose to focus on positive things that uplift and inspire me, I can feel a physical change in my being. A warming of my heart. The hopeful feeling that everything will be alright. Is alright. It’s the same feeling I experience when I see that my children are happy…or have chocolate cake with coffee.
In the words of the wise and beloved Steve Jobs,
I’m very excited about having the internet in my den.
Oh, wait. That’s probably not the best quote to use to illustrate my point. How about this?
The purpose of our lives is to be happy. – Dalai Lama
Now that’s a quote I can get behind.